A mother’s love is definitely infinite. There’s nothing she wouldn’t do for her children. Then 53-year old Cindy Reutzel gave her daughter Emily probably the greatest gift a mother can give to her daughter.
Three years ago, Emily Jordan was devastated when she was diagnosed with cervical cancer at a young age of 29, the doctors advised her to have a radical hysterectomy, which crushed her and husband Mike’s hopes of having a baby. What’s even worse is that before surgery, her doctor delivered more devastating news: Emily was pregnant. The couple had to make a painful decision and went ahead with the surgery in order to save Emily’s life.
“I can’t describe what that was like after finding out you have cancer, after finding out your chance of ever carrying a baby is gone,” Emily said.
Emily’s mother, Cindy, was as devastated as the couple. She wanted to do everything to help her infertile daughter become a parent. She made an unusual proposition: She wants to be a surrogate mom and carry the couple’s child.
At first, the couple didn’t take it seriously. Cindy was already in her 50s, so they were skeptical about the chances of her pulling it off. But she was determined to help, so she went through hormonal manipulation and psychological evaluation to prepare her body for pregnancy. The fertilization specialist, Dr. Helen Kim, implanted an embryo produced by Emily’s egg and Mike’s sperm into Cindy’s uterus.
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Most women do have it in mind that as though they have a man, they are satisfied. No! Think again. There's more to your relationship than just him. You also matter. Also Read: What Happens When You Love a Guy Who Just Likes You Whether you believe in love at first sight or taking a closer look, whether you’re in a long term relationship or something that is days old, there has to be self respect involved. Yes, it’s true that being in a relationship calls for mutual respect and understanding, but at the core of it all, you must respect yourself. Also Read: 10 Ways to Make Your Relationship Strong I’ve heard horror tales of women letting their partners step all over them because they’re afraid of ending up alone. Hello, girlfriend! Wake up! There’s a whole world of men out there and if you think that the loser who’s pushing you around is your best option, then maybe you really deserve to be with him. It all boils down to taking a look at yourself and evaluating your self worth.
Have you been worried because she's playing hard to get? You shouldn't be worried anymore. Just accept it because evolution has put women at the considerable advantage in a way that they won’t have a problem getting partners.
Read also: 11 lovely and emotional Ways to Show How Much You Care Men however, were given the enormous task of wooing and pursuing, not to mention the competition from other guys. But there’s a reason why it may seem like she’s toying with your ego.
Read also: 16 Bad Behavior That Can Hurt Your Sweet Relationship Remember, relationships are not like your regular Hollywood summer chick flick where the guy impresses and wins the girl immediately. Women, who are in advantage of choosing from a list of candidates, have the leisure to put you through their little mind games and tests to see if you deserve her company.
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Telling your lover "i love you" is not enough. Your action should speak more than your words. If you truly love your partner, you should be able to show emotional waysto showhow much you care.
Also read: 20 Ways To Say I Love You Now a days, saying something is no longer the best, especially if you’ve said it countless times before. As that lovely song goes, “More than words to show you feel, that your love for me is real.”
Do you know there are some bad behavior that could actually destroy your relationship? You might have been hurting your lover without you realizing it.
Thou not all bad behavior or habits could affect your relationship for the worse. But there are a few which your partner could overlook for a while, until those habits sow the seed that could split the ground in your perfect relationship and give way to other critical differences.
A divorce-seeking retiree, Joe, told an Igando Customary Court in Lagos on Tuesday that his wife was too lazy and had left everything in the house to maids.
“My wife is very lazy; she has left everything in the house for our maids to do, including cooking,” Joe, 57, alleged.
He told the court that his wife, Rita, 45, to whom he had a 19-year-old marriage, could not do anything, and usually flared up and disappear from the house whenever she was queried.
He said that it was owing to such laziness that he was forced to take their children to a boarding school for proper care.
The petitioner accused his wife of financial recklessness, saying that she could not manage a business outfit he set up for her.
“My wife mismanaged the business I established for her. Her shop is now empty and she keeps demanding for money every time.”
Ubigho said that his wife packed out of the house four weeks ago, and declared that he was no more ready to take her in.
He begged the court to dissolve the union as he was tired of the marriage and no more in love with the wife.
Rebutting the allegations, Rita, a businesswoman, said that it was her husband that chased her away from the house threatening to bathe her with acid if she did not leave.
“My husband threatened to bath me with acid if I refused to leave his house; so, I packed my belongings to stay with a woman whom he knows very well. I Pleaded with him to allow me stay in his house, so that I take care of my children.”
She accused her husband of vandalism, saying that he destroyed the car he bought for her.
“My husband damaged the car he bought for me, he stopped me on the road and demanded for the car key and declared that he was no longer interested in giving me the car. I demanded for an explanation and he threatened to burn me with the car if I refused to comply, before I knew what was happening, he started destroying the windscreen.”
The mother of three said that she did not mismanage the business her husband set up for her.
According to her, it was her husband that ordered her to use the business money for new shops he was building, promising to pay her back.
“Most times, he will come to my shop with strange people, remove some goods for them and promise to pay me– which he never did. Anytime I ask for the money, he will fight me.”
She promised to take good care of her husband and the children and urged the court not to dissolve the marriage as she was still in love.
The case has been adjourned till Aug. 17 for further hearing.
But for most of us, breakups feel like our hearts were ripped out of our chests and then stomped on repeatedly.
For every couple that breaks up and stays friends, there are hundreds of others hurting just as bad as you are right now.
12 ways to stop thinking about your ex and get over them
Have you really tried to get over your ex?
Do their thoughts still creep into your mind through the little cracks and haunt you to no end?
Here are a few tips for everyone out there having a tough time getting over their ex.
Use these suggestions and with a little effort, you’d be able to deal with it while moving on to the next catch at the same time!
#1 Sleep with someone else. Boom! Just get right into it, no questions asked, no numbers exchanged *unless you want to*, get in, get out, clear your head. Chasing girls and living the single life can be a great experience if you are just coming out of a long-term relationship.
There’s no better way to forget an ex than to hang out around other women, and who knows, maybe the next one truly is THE ONE!
#2 Remind yourself of all the terrible times with that person. You obviously broke up for a reason. Things were not cheerful day after day or you two would probably still be together.
Remind yourself of your last stupid argument, or the things your ex did that just really ticked you off, but you put up with it only because you were together. Well, you’re not together anymore so let that rage flow and use it as the motivation to move on.
#3 Surround yourself with friends. Call up your friends who you have probably neglected since you got into a relationship. Grab a few drinks, head on over to the beach, watch a few football games together, just get back into being with the guys. There is nothing that helps more in taking your mind off an ex girlfriend, than chasing new girls with your buddies.
#4 Blow off some steam by going to the gym. Most people (guys and girls) get a bit complacent with their bodies when they are in a relationship. And not putting the effort into how your body looks can really toy with your self-esteem after a bad breakup.
Don’t mope around and put yourself down, get a new gym membership and start working towards that body you had in high school. It’s great motivation to get back in shape while boosting your self-esteem in the process, which is vital when you’re going out and looking to meet other women.
#5 The no contact rule. Delete the number. Do it right now. Chances are, in this day and age, you simply type your contact’s name into your phone and hit dial. I am almost certain you don’t remember your significant other’s cell number by heart. Delete that number and do not try and contact them.
Don’t text a friend asking for your ex’s number, don’t try and email them, cut off all communication. The worst thing you could possibly do to hinder the moving on process is to call up your ex, reminisce on the good times, and be sucked right into a bad yo-yo relationship that was not working for either of you to begin with.
#6 This is real. Get closure and let your ex know that this is a real break up, not just a “break”. Do not leave the door open to getting back together. If things got bad enough to break up in the first place, it is hard to imagine a scenario where things get better instead of worse.
While we humans are usually optimistic people by nature, please realize this will most likely not end well. If you ended it once, make sure that there are no ifs, ands, or buts about the break up. It is OVER!
#7 Do not try and get your stuff back. Just leave it. Obviously, if you are in your room when you break up, don’t just storm out and leave everything. But if you have left your things there for longer than two weeks, either leave them for good, or ask you ex to box it up and send it to your new address.
Don’t invite them to deliver it themselves. Instead, ask friends or even pay someone to get your things together if you have to, but avoid going back to the apartment yourself. If you step foot in that apartment, all the memories of your relationship will come back and hit you all at once, whether you want it to or not.
It’s hard enough breaking up, don’t torture yourself again with past memories that could’ve been avoided.
#8 Ditch everything that is a reminder! Picture from your vacation to Hawaii? Burn it. The sweater she got you for Christmas, give it to the Salvation Army. Do away with anything that brings back strong memories of your ex. Now don’t be stupid about this either. If she happened to get you a Ford F-150, I wouldn’t exactly be taking that to the junkyard!
#9 Get busy living. Try and keep yourself busy and do something for yourself. Join a co-ed sports league to meet new friends, especially female friends who share the same love for a sport as you do. Ask your boss if you can work overtime and throw yourself into your work. Find a new hobby.
There are a million different things you could do to stay busy, and as the days turn into weeks and the weeks turn into months, before you know it, you will be ready to try the dating scene again.
#10 Stay away from the booze, you’ll regret it. If you want to go out one night and just drink until you can’t take anymore, I’m not stopping you. That is a lot of people’s first choice after a breakup. But when that supposedly onetime thing, turns into a weekly, or worse, a nightly event, you have a whole new set of problems on your hands.
#11 Reward yourself. Are you making the right choices that are helping you move on? Do not look into the past at what you had. Instead, look into the future to plan what you want to become and what kind of woman would make the future-you happy.
Take a trip you always wanted to take. Experience something exhilarating that you never would’ve done while in a relationship like bungee jumping or skinny dipping. After being with someone for a long time, you begin to take on their characteristics. Take a few risks, try new things, and find out who YOU truly are again.
#12 Life waits for no one. Carry on with your normal activities without moping around or isolating yourself. Everyone is allowed a pout for a day or two. But when those depressed days turn into weeks, you are not only preventing yourself from moving on, but also preventing others from helping you.
The best of friends will try and cheer up a moping friend, but after trying repeatedly, day after day, even people who start off with the best intentions of helping you out through this tough time, become a bit more distant. While others can try and help, the only person who can actually decide to make a change, is the one who’s looking right back at you from the mirror!
You’ve spent your share of days feeling miserable about your messed up world. Now step up and face the world. Keep these 12 ways to stop thinking of your ex girlfriend in mind, grab your jacket and get out. Seriously, there’s a whole new world waiting for you!
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It’s hard to know whether you should stick it out and persevere or cut your losses and move on. Here’s how you can tell if you should stay or go.
A lot of relationships fail. Most of them do, really. And that’s not such a terrible thing. It’s often for the best, and as much as it hurts, you’ve got to take away the life lessons and move on. But this is a hard decision to make. What if you’ve just only hit a small speed bump, and giving up the relationship is something you’ll later come to regret?
Sometimes things end because you’re just fighting all the time. When this happens, it’s obvious that it’s time to quit. But in a lot of relationships, it just starts to feel old, and things start getting boring. Everything starts to feel like a routine, and you don’t feel like the relationship is going anywhere. It may be time to break up.
But even this feeling of staleness, of losing interest, can be misleading. It could be due to external factors, or it may just mean that you need a jolt of excitement, of trying new things and getting out of the rut. But it could also mean it’s time to cut your losses and move on.
If you feel like you’re losing interest in your relationship and in your significant other, here’s how to tell if it’s a temporary blip, or a sign that it’s time for a big change.
#1 Heavy lift. Spending time together in a normal relationship should not feel like a chore. If you have a slight feeling of dread before meeting up with your significant other, that does not bode well for you two. Also, if you feel exhausted or just mentally drained after a day spent together, it’s time to move on. Spending casual time together should not feel like an obligation.
#2 Stuck on the sofa. If you have plans to meet, and you just can’t seem to motivate yourself to go, it’s time to question why you’re still in the relationship. Often you’ll just be glued to the TV, or browsing your Facebook timeline for the fifth time. You’re not even enjoying yourself, you’re just putting off walking out the door. This could be a sign of depression, but if you’re feeling okay otherwise, then it’s a loss of interest in the relationship.
#3 The company of others. Your girlfriend or boyfriend doesn’t have to be the first person you want to spend time with on any given day or night, but if you find that they’re rarely or never your top choice, you should start to ask yourself why that is. It’s great hanging out with your friends, and you don’t always have to invite your significant other along, but if you never want to, there’s probably no future for the relationship.
#4 Constant bother. You know when you’re just having a bad day, and little things that shouldn’t be a big deal just annoy the heck out of you? Well, one of the signs that you’ve lost interest in your relationship is that your significant other increasingly makes you feel this way. It’s even likely that things that he or she used to do all the time that you found cute or endearing, are now the cause of your annoyance. There’s probably no way back from this point, if that’s how you feel. Time for a breakup.
#5 Picking fights. Fighting is not always a bad thing, as it can help to strengthen relationships, if you can communicate well and avoid pettiness. But constant arguments are a bad sign, and if you’re the one starting most of them, it’s probably for a deeper reason than the small things that started each fight.
It may not even be a conscious thing. You might not realize that you’re doing it because you want out of the relationship. That’s a bad situation, and unfair to your partner. If the fights are getting worse and more frequent, it’s time to think about calling it quits.
#6 Intimacy lost. Hugs and kisses are one of the first casualties when someone starts losing interest in their relationship. The small, intimate things that were always there at the start just don’t happen as much anymore. It could be the goodnight kiss, the hand holding, or the hug when you see each other after a long day at work. If you’re getting bored of the relationship, the absence of these things is a big giveaway.
#7 Bedroom bore. This one seems pretty obvious, and loss of interest in the bedroom is often a sign that you’re losing interest. But people’s sex drives can go up or down for a number of reasons, from health, to external stress, so this is one to be careful with.
Oftentimes, it’s just when it becomes too routine that you don’t want sex as much as you used to. Try changing things up in the bedroom. Bring in role-play, or dirty talk, explore your fantasies and kinks. If none of this works, than it may be a larger problem with the relationship itself.
#8 Eyes for others. A very common sign of a tired and stale relationship is wandering eyes – when you start looking at other men or women, or fantasizing about a co-worker. These aren’t necessarily bad things to do, but when it becomes constant, and you stop thinking of your significant other in a sexual light, then it’s time for some self-examination. You don’t have to only have eyes for your partner, but you should at least have them.
#9 Non-disclosure. At the start of a relationship, you start confiding a lot in your significant other. This doesn’t necessarily have to be your deep, dark secrets. It may just be a problem you had with your boss or an argument with a family member. It could even be a funny story a co-worker told or just about your day in general. When you stop sharing these seemingly mundane yet crucial things, it could be because you’re tired of the relationship.
#10 A bore. Sometimes there comes a point in the relationship where you just feel, well, bored. It’s important to differentiate between boredom in the relationship, and general boredom in your life. Think hard about it: if you were to break up, would you start feeling more or less bored? You may just need to work together with your partner to find ways to break out of your routines. Try new things, go new places, and spice up your sex life. But if you feel like a breakup would cure the boredom, well then that’s what you should do.
There’s usually no going back after you decide to end your relationship, so think long and hard before you do it. All of these signs are a good indication that time is up for you, but most of them might have some other cause. People have a lot of stress in their lives, from work, to family problems, to health issues. It could just be that one or both of you are going through a rough patch that will pass. Breaking up is a big decision, even in a fairly new relationship. It’s not one that should be taken lightly. But sometimes, it’s something that must be done.
Think it through, but if a few of the items on this list are ringing a bell for you, there’s a pretty good chance that your loss of interest in your relationship will eventually lead to a breakup.11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It
A break-up is devastating, and it hurts more when it’s a complete surprise. Here’s how to ease the sting of heartbreak after an abrupt break-up.
When a relationship ends, it can feel like torture in a variety of ways. You’ll likely go through a process of grief, which can bring up feelings of loneliness, anger, depression, and emotional pain. What’s worse is when a relationship ends without any warning at all. It can be all the more painful, and because you never saw it coming, you weren’t prepared, and you may not even have sufficient closure.
While getting dumped out of the blue may feel like the world has hit you with a pile of bricks, it’s not the end of the world. You can even think of it as the start of a new chapter in your life, wherein you’ll rise up and start anew. But of course, before you find yourself getting stronger from your experience, you must first deal with the aftermath of an abrupt separation.
How to get over being suddenly dumped
As with any breakup, you need time to heal. But the healing process can be harder when your relationship ended without any warning. Here’s how you can manage that.
#1 Give yourself time to grieve. It’s more than okay to feel devastated and in shock after an important relationship has ended. Remember that you are not weak, and that it is normal and healthy to feel sad. When people avoid the grieving stage, they can become either incredibly closed off to love or become desperate for love in an unhealthy way.
Give yourself enough time to grieve, and this time means being alone to process the breakup and analyze how it wasn’t good for you in the first place. If you were dumped suddenly, ask yourself if you really want to stay with someone who had so little respect for you that they ended things in a snap judgment, without trying to work it out first.
Spend time feeling your feelings, instead of stuffing them down or numbing them in unhealthy ways, such as turning to drugs, alcohol or unhealthy company. Comfort food can be a good thing, but not in excess. Lean on friends and family if your grief borderlines on depression or hopelessness. You should never forget that you are a whole, healthy individual aside from a relationship that just didn’t work out.
The right person is out there wondering when they’ll meet you. Make sure you’ve properly grieved the loss, so that the next person you meet will get the best of you, without any lingering baggage or hostility towards a past relationship.
#2 Regroup. Spend time with your own thoughts. If you weren’t given closure, you have to claim it for yourself. Process what happened and assess your feelings. Do you really want to be with someone who left without warning? Remember that your sadness is likely due to other feelings, such as rejection, loss of a friend, loneliness, change of routine, etc. Your feelings stem from a variety of places, so don’t take them as a cue that the deeper your grief, the deeper your love for your ex.
While that can be partially true sometimes, remember that even people who’ve been abused by a partner still feel grief and despair after they cut ties with their unhealthy relationship. Don’t beat yourself up if your partner left without warning. It says more about their nature than it does about you. They were too cowardly to give you closure or try to work it out, so it’s their loss and not yours.
#3 Take care of yourself. When going through a breakup, it might seem like the natural thing to binge on pizza and beer, but you’ll only end up feeling worse and grow larger in the process. Don’t forget to take care of yourself by exercising, eating healthy, watching your stress levels, and getting enough sleep. Of course, this can seem hard to do, especially in the early stages of the breakup, but these things will actually help you feel better.
If you feel fatigued and lethargic from eating junk all day and laying on the couch, you’ll only continue to feel bad for yourself. Exercise also produces feel-good chemicals in the brain that can help shake your depression and make you feel better about yourself.
#4 Make a list. Take a good, hard look at your life. What do you like about it, and what don’t you like? Now is the ideal time to make changes in becoming the person that you want to be. One of the best ways to prioritize your goals and wants is to make a list. Actually, make two lists! On one piece of paper write all the things you hated about your last relationship, or things that you had wished were different about your ex-partner.
On a second piece of paper, write a long, detailed list of all the things you want to experience in your future. This includes your goals and desires, both in a partner and in your life in general. Put the list of the things you didn’t like in a box, and only look at it when you find yourself slipping and thinking of the good times with your ex, or wanting them back. Keep the wants list in your wallet or purse, and look at it frequently to remember that you’re moving towards better things.
#5 Embrace being single for a while. Don’t jump back into a new relationship or search for a rebound fling to combat your feelings of rejection and loneliness. Being single can be a refreshingly liberating experience. If you look at it in a positive light instead of as a depressing lonely time, you can really enjoy singledom while it lasts.
When you’re single, you can go where you want, flirt with multiple people, and work on doing what you want without seeking the approval of a partner. You don’t have to worry about gift giving, shared responsibilities, or dealing with your partner’s family *which can sometimes be overwhelming*. You can spend more time with the loved ones who can also help keep you positive during your time of grief.
#6 Try new things. Experiencing things that you’ve always wanted to try is a great way to discover new talents or hobbies that you otherwise wouldn’t have had the chance to discover. Since your breakup happened so suddenly, you may need to keep yourself distracted with activities that will fill up the time that your ex used to take up.
Try a new workout class, dance class, rock climbing, Muay Thai, wine making, pottery making, whatever floats your boat. You’ll have fun and keep your mind off any bitter or sad post-breakup feelings.
#7 Sign up for a dating website. Word of caution: This is the last step for a reason. This comes after you feel complete as a person before seeking a partner. I’m also not suggesting that a dating site is where you’ll meet the love of your life, but it could be a great way to help rebuild your confidence.
If you’ve been in a previous long term relationship, you may feel like a fish out of water in the dating world. Dating sites are great for chatting with other people without having to spend the time or the money on physical dates before getting to know someone.
You can flirt and get back in the game before meeting a potential prospect. Plus, all the compliments won’t hurt your self-esteem either. Don’t forget to be complete within yourself before seeking a serious partner. That way, you’ll attract someone you really want, and not just a remedy for loneliness.
#8 Don’t be too hard on yourself. Abrupt breakups can be devastating, but don’t forget that you’re not the only one to ever suffer the dreaded experience. Many people claim that their past breakups have made them stronger, allowed them to re-evaluate their life, and ultimately helped them find the person they were meant to be with.
Mentally thank your ex for saving you from more years wasted with the wrong person, and for doing so with the Band-Aid method of severing ties without stringing you along on a hopeless relationship.
Follow the above advice, and believe that one day you’ll look back at this breakup in a more positive way, knowing that it helped you get to a better place in your life. Breakups are tough, but by taking note of these helpful tips, and being patient with yourself, you’ll have what it takes to bounce back!11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It
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Big changes are never easy. But they’re not completely impossible to
deal with. Here are 8 ways you can help ease your transition.
Big changes can occur in your life, even when you least expect it. These changes can be positive, like a promotion at your job, or the beginning of a new relationship. But they can also be negative, like undergoing a breakup, or having a health problem.
Whatever the case may be, adaptation may be necessary to help you handle your new situation. This can be quite scary at first, but if you do it correctly, then it can help you ride out some of those major changes, and help you ease into your new situation.
Who knows, perhaps some of the things you learn could even help serve you for the rest of your life. Even though change can be disruptive, it can often lead to a better place. For example, if you lose your job, you may realize that you didn’t want to be in that field anyway. If you broke up with someone, you may realize that you deserve someone better. Every setback, after all, is an opportunity to make your life better.
How to deal with major life changes
In any case, there are some things that you can do to help you deal with the changes that life throws at you. Here are some tips that may help you!
#1 Make good use of the support you have. If you know that some of your friends will be there to help you emotionally during your time of great change, then this is a good time to seek them out. Try not to be too proud. Sometimes, we really do need a helping hand.
It could be as simple as having a friend listen to you complain about your situation. This can help give you validation and the feeling that you are not completely alone in your struggle. It could also be more complicated. For example, a friend could help you move your belongings, if you are moving, or he or she could help you find a new job, a new hobby, a new career path or even a new relationship.
#2 Try to roll with the punches. In other words, try not to get hung up on the way that things used to be. If it happened, it happened. There are just some things that we have no control over, and there are some things that are too late for us to remedy.
Sometimes things just happen, and getting too stuck in the past can be counterproductive. When things happen, it is time to adapt and adjust. This is how progress is best made. You cannot change what has already happened, you can only work in the present to create a better future.
The punch is coming, so try not to just sit there and wish that it wasn’t. Roll, dodge, and get out of the way. Do what you have to do, and keep moving!
#3 Try to keep a positive outlook. If there is a way for you to put whatever is happening in a positive perspective, then this can help you deal with the change. For example, if you just found out that your divorced mother is now dating someone twenty years younger than she is, perhaps you can view it as an opportunity to have more in common with her partner.
Even in the most difficult of situations, there can often be something positive that comes out of it. If you can find that silver lining, then it can help to ensure that whatever is happening is not purely negative. This can go a long way in maintaining mental balance.
#4 Do things that make you happy. Perhaps you like to play tennis or go to the beach or read books for hours on end. Taking the time to do things that please you can help to take your mind off of your troubles and to give you some added positive energy. The more positive energy that you have, the easier it will be to ride out the changes that are happening all around.
Think of these activities as your anchor, whenever you think the changes in your life are getting out of control. Look to positive and productive activities to help you gain some consistency in your life. ]
#5 Avoid things that make you unhappy. This may sounds simple, but many people actually struggle to do this. If there is someone in your life who really upsets you, then avoid the person. There is no need to add to your stress during a big life change.
The same is true for places and things. If going to a certain bar bothers you because the manager is creepy or the music is too loud, then there is no need to force yourself to go there. Make your life as easy as possible during challenging times. You need your energy to go toward dealing with the main problems. Don’t add little problems, if you don’t have to.
#6 Try to solve the main problem. If you are really stressing out because you need to find a new apartment, the only thing that will really end the stress is finding a new apartment. Procrastinating or distracting yourself may help to temporarily relieve the stress, but it will return as soon as you have to think about the issue.
Solving the actual issue, however will make the problem disappear or it will make it a lot easier to deal with. Once you have a clear plan of action and you have executed the initial stages of your plan, then you can give yourself a reward by taking a break from all the hustle and bustle.
#7 Get inspiration from people who have dealt with a similar problem. If you know someone who has dealt with a similar thing to what you are going through, perhaps you can get his or her advice. For instance, you have a friend who has gone through a similarly difficult breakup, asking that friend for some tips on how to quickly come to terms with the end of your relationship not only helps you accept the situation faster, but it can also give you some perspective on your situation.
#8 Get professional help. If the situation that you are dealing with is simply too much, getting a therapist or a life coach may help you. These people are trained to guide people through difficult situations, and they have skills that will most likely help you. It isn’t shameful, and it can be extremely beneficial to seek the advice of someone who helps people for a living.
You can even seek the help of professionals who are trained to handle newbies in a certain field. For instance, if you’ve gotten a job in a field that’s different from your previous jobs, asking around for a mentor or someone who can guide you will be a great way to help you deal with the change.
Though it can be hard to embrace change, especially those that catch you off guard, that’s no reason for you to feel completely hopeless. With change comes life lessons, and with these life lessons come personal growth!
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Like everything else, successful love too is based on a few rules.
Follow these relationship rules and we assure you, love will feel like a
bed of roses.
To many people, love is tricky and confusing.
And to many others, love is just a mirage.
They may be in a relationship and still never experience true love.
But every new relationship has the potential to blossom into something spectacular and wonderful, just as long as you remember the relationship rules that matter the most.
Relationship rules for successful love
There are a few relationship rules that can change a drifting relationship into a romantic one.
But as trivial and simple as they may seem, it’s something that needs a lot of effort and dedication to achieve.
Someone once said that falling in love should be effortless.
True, falling in love is easy, but staying in love always needs a bit of work. Just as long as working on a relationship feels less like work and more like fun, you should be just fine.
25 relationship rules that matter
Follow these relationship rules in your own relationship, irrespective of whether it’s new or old. As long as you’re committed to creating a better relationship, you’d have no trouble creating a magical experience out of love.10 Types of Love You’ll Experience in Your Life
#1 Try your best to love your partner unconditionally even if it seems hard not to be selfish.
#2 Think from your partner’s perspective when it comes to matters of the heart.
#3 End an argument as soon as possible, even if hugging your partner is the last thing on your mind.
#4 Make love regularly, but never allot times for it. Scheduling a time for sex makes it a chore that can start to become a bore.
#5 Communicate with each other and grow together in love, but never grow apart with lack of communication as the years pass by.
#6 Learn to give space to each other to become better individuals. Even the closest of relationships need some alone time to miss each other now and then. What Happens When You Love a Guy Who Just Likes You
#7 Never take each other for granted. This is the easiest way to fall prey to affairs and arguments.
#8 Say a white lie when you need to, especially if it’s a little lie that won’t change your relationship, but will make your partner feel happy.
#9 Never shy away from positive criticism. As long as you say it in a constructive manner, it’ll help your partner become a better person.
#10 Be the shoulder to lean on, no matter what. Tough times are the most testing phases of a relationship. Stand by your partner, and when the storm ends, love will shine brighter.
#11 Never argue in public, but indulge in public display of affection.
#12 Date each other even if you’ve been together for years. It keeps the love alive.
#13 Look sexy for each other, and that includes a flat tummy. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you should let yourself go and look shabby.
#14 Compliment your partner, even if it’s a regular chore or habit. Compliments are the best way to thank a special someone for the effort they’ve taken for you, however small it may be.
#15 Celebrate the special days. Birthdays and anniversaries may repeat itself too many times, but it’s these milestones that create memories.
#17 Learn to forgive without holding grudges. As hard as it may be, forgiveness is one of the qualities of true love that matters most in a relationship.
#18 Respect your partner whole heartedly.
#19 Understand that your partner can have crushes on others too. It’s a difficult thought, but if you admire someone else, so can your partner.
#20 Trust your partner and your instincts, even if others say otherwise.
#21 Never grumble or badmouth each other even if you’re tempted to, out of anger or frustration.
#22 Learn to spend quality time with each other. There’s no better way to fall more in love with each other as the relationship grows.
#23 Behave like children now and then. A few pillow fights or cute wrestles can never hurt anyone. But it can help both of you enjoy the relationship.
#24 Be spontaneous with your affections. Don’t always wait for special occasions or moments to express your love. Spontaneous surprises are always happier than planned surprises.
#25 Whatever works! No relationship is alike. Instead of learning from someone else’s relationship, learn from your own relationship’s successes and failures.Why Social Media is Runing your Relationship
These relationship rules could seem simple, but following them to the tee can make all the difference between a romantic relationship and a failed affair. If you really do treasure your love, make a difference with these tips. You won’t regret it!
You may have had your share of love experiences. But do you know the
ten types of love that you’ll definitely experience in your life no
matter what?
Love is a funny thing.
It comes in so many hues and ways that it’s almost impossible to predict the type of love you’d experience until you actually experience it.
But as confusing, happy or even painful as it may seem, love is still something we all look forward to experience.
Throughout your life, you’ll find yourself in many circumstances of love, and almost all the time, you’d find yourself experiencing one of these ten types of love.
And eventually, you will experience all these ten types of love if you choose to!
The ten types of love
Without really getting into theories and styles of love that can just end up complicating your mind, let’s talk about real life and the experiences you’d feel in your own life.
Read these ten types of love and if there are some types that you haven’t experienced yet, don’t worry, it’s just around the corner.
And if you think a few types of love mentioned here aren’t really the kind of love your mama told you about, think again, because your brain sure does think it’s all truly an experience of love!
#1 Platonic love
Platonic love is the simplest of all types. There are no strings attached and no sexual intentions either. It’s pure, friendly and something we experience from a very young age when we still don’t know why we have the things we have inside our underwear.
The kind of relationships you share with siblings, close childhood friends and even a few grownup friends can fall right here. Do you remember the first time you missed a friend? That was probably your first platonic love moment.
#2 Limerence and crushes
Ever had a crush on someone? Of course you have! The first crush is a memorable experience, one that’s filled with confusing jolts in the stomach, sudden urges to throw up and a stupid sense of grinning satisfaction each time you see your crush. It’s a beautiful experience even if it did feel like your life depended on it at that time.
Limerence, on the other hand, is rather close to a crush but much more intense and “weird”. Have you ever liked someone madly, but didn’t ever want to express your love for them, like a school teacher or an actor, or even a crush? Sometimes, you may have an intense infatuation for someone, but yet, you wouldn’t want to spoil the happy thoughts by doing anything about it. Ever been there?
Unrequited love is a love filled with heartbreaks and one that almost all of us have experienced. It’s the dreaded one sided love, where you like someone and you know that person will never like you back. They may be in a relationship, or they may just use you. You find yourself falling more in love with each passing day, even though you know you’ll never get any happiness out of this type of love.
This is the type of love that gives love a bad name. But you know what, it also helps you understand the real value of reciprocal love.
#4 Obsessive love
Are you an obsessive lover or someone who’s addicted to their partner? Do you feel helpless and lonely without that special someone in your arm?
Are you sure you’re not bordering on being clingy? If you’ve ever been an obsessive lover, there’s a good chance you’ve sucked the life out of your partner and pissed them off until they eventually left you on the curb.
Obsessive love is usually experienced by the novices who experience love for the first time, probably after having to deal with the scary unrequited love. Obsessive lovers are scared, insecure, and obviously obsessive about the relationship.
Now you may have been one or may have dated someone like this. It’s a stage all of us experience when we’re afraid of losing someone we love. But if you or your partner has security issues, really, there’s no hope for a happy ending here.
Selfish love is smart. And though it involves two people to create that relationship, selfish love also involves two people who are in love with one person.
Your partner loves you. You love you.
Selfish love is a narcissistic love where you don’t care about your partner or their happiness. You only care about yourself. If you ever find yourself getting into a relationship just for the heck of it without really falling in love with the other person, chances are, you’re a selfish lover.
Selfish lovers are clever, scheming foxes who only get into a relationship to see what they can get out of it.
Ever dated someone just to appear cooler or achieve something for personal gains? If you have, tick the selfish lover off the list. If you haven’t, wait and watch yourself use someone at some point in your life. Don’t worry, it’ll eventually happen.
#6 Awww love
Awww… that’s so cute. This type of love is the most spontaneous and yet, the one you’ll forget the soonest. It lasts for a few seconds, sometimes even less and some other times, a lot longer.
Do you love cats, dogs, goats… any animals at all? Or perhaps, a car or a tree? Sometimes, all of us feel an overwhelming sense of love for something or the other, and it doesn’t have to be a person. It’s love at first sight, and yet, it’s not something you’d want to sleep at night with (mostly). We’ve all experienced the heart melting awww when we look at vacation photos or a tiny kitten or a pup on youtube. Been there and done that, and yes, you’ve experienced another type of love.
#7 Same sex love
Ever felt an intense burst of happiness when you see a friend of the same sex? You’re both straight, you don’t cuddle and you don’t grope each other. But somehow you just love this person, and you either have a man crush or a girl crush on this friend of yours.
Same sex love is an emotion you’d feel for your friend or even a celebrity, but it’s got less to do with sexual attraction and more to do with awe, respect and admiration.
#8 Lusty love
Ever dated someone who got you wet with a hug? Ever had a crush on someone who makes you want to do things to yourself when you’re alone in bed? Yeah, you’ve experienced lusty love!
Lusty love is the type of love you experience when you lust for someone or get into a relationship with someone you’re extremely sexually attracted to. The first few weeks are all about sex and the positions, and both of you need just a few seconds of alone time to throw each other’s clothes on the floor. If a relationship of yours revolves more around the bed and less around trees and flowers, you’re in lusty love, my love.
Butterflies, bliss and Louis Armstrong’s ‘what a wonderful’ is all you need to think of when you experience romantic love. It’s beautiful, sappy love at its best.
You feel the flutter of butterflies in your stomach, the world looks so much more beautiful and you can’t hold that grin back no matter what you do. You want to be with your sweetheart all the time, and even when you’re not together, you can’t help wanting to be together.
You’re happy. Your lover’s happy. The world’s happy for you. And you’re having the time of your life!
#10 Unconditional love
Blessed are the lovers who experience this special type of love for each other. It’s not easy and it’s definitely not something most people even want to try. But if you do ever take a leap of faith, you’d see what true love really feels like.
Do you love someone more than you love yourself? Do you care about your lover more than you care about anything else is the world? Chances are, you may be experiencing unconditional love. Unconditional love is the stuff fairy tales and romance novels are made of. If both of you care about each other and love each other selflessly, you’re in the middle of a special type of love that few ever experience, but spend all their lives looking for.
If you do want to ensure that you experience this tenth type of love, take a leap of faith and truly fall back in love with someone who loves you. Soon enough, with a bit of trust, communication and hope, you may just live through this grand experience that dreams are made of!
And there we have it, the ten types of love that you’d definitely experience in your life, as long as you’re willing to risk a chance and take that plunge into the waters of love. So how many types of love have you experienced so far?
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Love is hardly ever equal. But there’s a certain type of pain reserved for falling in love with a guy who can’t quite return the same feeling.
Love is great. Love is grand. But love is hardly ever reciprocated in the same way you’d expect. There are times when you love someone who loves you so much more. There are times when you love someone who doesn’t love you at all. But the worst form of middle ground in the whole love equation is when you love someone who’s into you, but isn’t quite in love with you.
The reason this is so frustrating is that he’s about halfway towards feeling the same way about you. He likes you, so that’s a good start. But he hasn’t quite crossed over to the realm of falling in love with you. There’s that sense of hope that he’d get there, but a part of you would start to wonder what it would take to get him to love you. What do you have to do to get him there? How long do you have to wait before he starts to feel the same way?
In this scenario, you can either just wait it out or give up. But of course, you already love the guy. So you’re more likely to wait it out for as long as you possibly can. Do this, and this is what you’ll be in for:
#1 There’s a whole lot of sign-watching involved. They say that when a person is in love, it shows in their faces. There’s a pep in their step. They bloom. They look like they jumped right out of a stock photo for happy people. The truth is, being in love isn’t as evident as, say, being happy or being anxious. Being in love isn’t a mood. It’s a blend of different emotions that may or may not be evident.
That’s why you’ll start to look for these signs that he’s finally ready to love you back. You’ll analyze his texts for clues. You’ll start to give meaning to otherwise meaningless little gestures of kindness. You’ll start to read between the lines when there’s nothing there to be read. To the rest of the world, you’ve gone stark-raving mad. But to you, you’re just looking for signs.
#2 The heartbreak of not being the one who calls the shots. They say that the person who holds the power in a relationship is the one who cares less. This is because the one who cares less can pretty much do whatever the heck they want, and the one who cares more will always chase after them. Obviously, in this scenario, you’re the one who cares more. Also Read: 11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It
The big problem with this whole thing is that the person you love has the potential to take you for granted. Yes, they like you, and they care about you to some extent. But when something more important than you pops up, you’re the one who will probably take the fall. What happens is that you might end up being treated worse than you deserve, but you’ll gladly take it, because you think that being patient will finally grant you access to his love.
#3 You won’t expect much from him. He could take you to the sleaziest place in town with the intention of hopping into bed with you, and you’d still think it’s so sweet of him to go through the effort. In other words, your feeling of self-worth may be lowered, because any gesture of kindness, of sweetness, of anything from him will be received with graciousness and gratitude.
You know it’s not healthy. You know you deserve better. But because you love this person, anything he does, no matter how half-baked, will feel like winning the lottery. Why? Because each and every day, you’re hoping he’d finally realize that you’re worth more than this. Sadly, that time isn’t anywhere near.
#4 You could lose him at any moment. Liking someone isn’t a tangible thing that you can visualize, like how much battery power your phone still has. Loving someone is an emotional investment. Liking someone, however, is a lot more flippant, and it can dissolve into nothingness with the blink of an eye. You know that this is a painful reality. But while the pessimist in you sees that he might disappear all of a sudden, the optimist in you still grabs on to that shred of hope that he’ll switch from like to love. It’s a 50-50 game you’re playing there.
#5 You may need to re-evaluate what his love is worth. What would you give for him to fall in love with you? Your self-respect? The contents of your bank account? The keys to your car? Your youth? When he likes you, it seems like loving you can’t be that far off, and you’re willing to pay extra just to give him a nudge in the right direction.
Sadly, for those who are more impatient, they end up giving more than what his love is worth. For instance, you might think that if he didn’t have to worry so much about money, he’d finally be honest with his feelings and fall in love with you.
So, lovesick lady, what do you do? You spend your money on all his needs, until your wallet is flipped inside out. Yes, money may pale in comparison to finally being loved back, but when he starts to see just how far you’re willing to go for him, what’s to stop him from abusing this privilege?
#6 He’ll be one of the hardest people to get over. When a relationship ends, there’s some form of closure. One breaks things off, and the feeling becomes mutual. The thread that bound you together is severed clean. But with the guy who was never really in a relationship with you, there’s no tangible thread to be cut to show that it’s over.
Instead, what you’ll get is a gradually growing rift between you. You may be the one who’s stretching your means to keep him around, but he may just be going with the flow, which happens to be away from you.
And when he’s finally gone, there’s not much closure, because how can you formally end something that hardly ever started? And as much as closure is important to moving on, how can you get that closure from a “relationship” that never completely made it to fruition?
#7 All the what-ifs will keep haunting you. When he finally mans up and decides that he doesn’t want to continue with your sort-of relationship, there may be some semblance of relief, because he’s finally decided on how to proceed with your relationship. But afterwards, you might start to dwell on what might have happened between the two of you.
You may think back on the times when you could have done more. You might dwell on those moments when you should have asked him, urged him to stay. You might keep thinking about those times when you could have been more adamant about your needs to him, and he may have had it in him to provide them, had you asked. But alas, all they are, in reality, are what ifs, and they’re gone with the wind. 11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It Loving someone who likes you just enough to stick around can be one of the trickiest relationship situations you can ever be in. If you’re ever in this scenario, don’t sacrifice your self-worth for the love of some guy who might not even give you what you need. You deserve better than that. Source:LovePanky 11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It
Social media is great for a number of things: staying in touch with friends and family, sharing photos and videos, and keeping abreast of the goings on of local businesses. However, it can also be a real pain in the butt: gossip galore, drunken posted pictures, and loosely known acquaintances journaling in their status updates about their life problems, and detailing what recipes they made for dinner.
Sharing life achievements? Great. Shameless link-spamming in status updates? Ugh. All this connecting can really get tiresome.
So what does it do for relationships? Not a lot of good, frankly. You may think you have to be obsessed with your online persona to experience troubles from the Internet, but sometimes the trouble isn’t you at all, it’s other users.
Social media habits that are ruining relationships
There are actually a number of things that make Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and other social media sites a bane to the modern relationship.
#1 Oversharing. While you may think it’s okay to tell the world via Twitter or Facebook that you’ve just had the most outrageous fight with your boyfriend, he may not think it’s so cool to be so connected. If you’re the type to overshare, you may be alienating your mate by being the one who shares every tiny detail of what’s going on in your lives.
In reality, oversharing fights through social media is not only both childish and disrespectful, it’s also rude. You both have your mates, friends and family on your friends list somewhere, and do they need to hear about how you think their loved one is being a major douchebag?
But what if you’re sharing good things? Believe it or not, a lot of people still value their privacy. For example, did you get engaged and now you want to tell the world? Think twice before shouting it out on Twitter, before he even got the chance to tell his own mother! Just remember whether it’s good or bad news, there is such a thing as sharing too much.
#2 You never stop networking. Are you obsessed with social networking? Are you consistently checking your Instagram, YouTube, Texts and Twitter via your cell phone? There’s nothing more annoying than trying to have a conversation with your romantic partner, while they’re checking their phone for the latest updates.
By consistently responding to texts and other forms of media, you’re essentially saying your partner’s company isn’t interesting enough to hold your attention. Not very loving, is it?
#3 Friends list drama. The friend lists can be one of the biggest stress factors in a relationship, whether it’s new or long-term. Imagine your girlfriend is friends with 200 guys, most of which leave sexual or flirtatious comments on her newest pictures. Not exactly the most secure feeling ever. Or what if your boyfriend is friends with a girl you absolutely hate or worse: his ex.
Not only do you have to worry about social connections, you also have to worry about incoming friends requests from random people who have ulterior motives.
#4 The jealousy factor. If you find your mate chatting with members of the opposite sex via social media on a regular basis, you may have reason to worry. This worry can lead to paranoia, jealousy, snooping, and fights. Snooping into your mate’s social media account or their friends’ pages can be one of the most terrifying experiences for a couple. What if you find flirtatious messages, sexy photos, or incriminating evidence of their whereabouts on another friend’s wall? [Also Read 11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It] What’s even worse is when you find nothing at all, and realize that you’re being suspicious over absolutely nothing.
#5 It makes you narcissistic. Facetime and Skype are just new ways we look at our own reflections, isn’t it? How many people choose for their chatting partner to have the bigger Skype window? Not to mention, those with huge followings over social media may start to let their “likes” go to their head. The attitude that you are all-important and ultra-popular can make your partner see just how self-involved you are.
#6 The invitation to flirt. Using social media is like having a formal invitation to flirt. It’s as simple as using too many emoticons or carrying on too long with someone commenting on your picture. Maybe you view these interactions as innocent, but the random guy who was searching the hashtag #Blonde and happened to come upon your hot photo? Yeah, he doesn’t care how innocently you meant your winky-face to come off, nor does he limit himself to his interactions with you, just because you have a boyfriend or a husband.
People online don’t care what your relationship status is because they don’t have to. After all, they don’t know you. Therefore they make that invitation to flirt seem all the more innocent. Always think about your spouse when you have these interactions online. If you reversed the situation and stumbled upon a chat between your boyfriend and a girl who was flirting with him via an Instagram photo, how would you feel?
#7 “The Ex Effect.” Yes, your ex existed and your new beau will just have to get over that fact. But does he or she need to see tagged pictures of your ex slammed all over his news feed?
The fact is that many people stay friends with their ex via social media, and it’s usually an invitation to disaster. One night of reminiscing via Facebook may lead to video Skyping, which could lead to coffee and before you know it, you’ve completely reconnected with a person whom you were supposed to leave in the past.
Even if this hasn’t actively happened, the threat will always be there, no matter how long it has been. In most cases, you need to remember that this person is your ex for a reason. The past should stay in your past, especially if you are trying to move on with your future.
#8 Cheating. This is the big one, the full Monty of social media woes: Cheating, and its unfortunate ties to social media. Think about it: If you’re a man and you see a hot girl walking down the street, you see her once. No harm done.[Also Read 11 Signs He Likes You But He's Kinda Scared To Admit It] But via social media? You can stalk her photos and keep her in your mind and your consciousness from the comfort of your tablet screen. Is that the image you want to have of your mate as they’re browsing through their feed over their phone? Sure, this may imply a complete lack of trust in your partner, but the sad truth is that expansion of the Internet has made it all too easy for people to cheat and get away with it.
Have you been worried seeing sings that a guy’s into you, but he won’t say it out
loud? Here are the signs he’s just too scared to get it out in the open!
Trying to figure out if a guy likes you can be a frustrating experience. Sometimes, guys just make it really difficult to tell. They may do things like throw you mixed signals, or just simply not reveal how they are feeling about you. How annoying!
Wouldn’t it be easier if you could just tell somehow if a guy liked you, like you can tell if a guy is single on Facebook by looking at his relationship status?
Well, even though that technology doesn’t exist yet, there are certain signs that men can give away, which can tell you that he likes you, even if he doesn’t admit it. Learning these signs and how to read them can help you figure out if the man you are interested in is interested in you too. Isn’t that great?
Is he into you, but is too chicken to admit it?
This can save you some trouble when you are working yourself into a sweat, trying to get to the bottom of it. So, what are the signs he likes you, but is too scared to admit it?
#1 He blushes around you. It’s not just women who blush. If a man likes you, there is a good chance that you might be able to catch him blushing around you. It could be because he is nervous, or he thinks that you can tell that he likes you, but if you see his cheeks get a little red, this can definitely mean there are some sparks flying inside his chest.
Unless he is eating something ridiculously spicy that’s making his face red, there is definitely a great chance that his red cheeks are a sign that he is blushing because he’s into you.
#2 He smiles a lot when you talk to him. If he is smiling a lot more than the average person does when you talk to him, there is a solid chance that he likes you. The mere sight of you might be making him happy and he might be having a hard time containing it.
You might be wondering why he doesn’t just tell you he likes you if he is having such a hard time containing it. But he is probably worried that you might not like him back. That’s why he is hesitating.
#3 He is fidgeting nervously. Classic fidgets include twiddling his thumbs, tapping his leg and eyes that shift everywhere except to your eyes. At first, you may think he’s just acting weird. But you may realize that he’s just so nervous when you’re around, because he doesn’t want to do anything that you’d disapprove of.
When a guy suddenly has these quirks when you’re around, try your best not to call attention to them. He’s already nervous enough as it is, and he’ll be even more conscious if you let him know that you can see his jerky movements.
#4 He’s sweating while he talks to you. This goes hand in hand with fidgeting, and sometimes, instead of fidgeting, you can see his nervousness manifest as a shining sheen of sweat on his forehead. Unless it’s inordinately hot while you’re talking, you can take this as a sign that he’s attracted to you.
#5 He laughs at all your jokes. Everyone has a bunch of corny jokes that no one would probably laugh at. But it’s a dead giveaway that a guy likes you if he laughs at all your lame jokes and eats up everything you say at the drop of a hat.
#6 He is giving you compliments. Compliments are oftentimes another giveaway that he likes you. If he is taking the time to point out that he likes your bag, or your hair, or your skirt, he could either be a stylist in the works or he might be really into you, but is too scared to say that he likes you as a whole.
Also, going up to a girl and just saying “I like you” is really direct. Guys probably assume that it would creep you out and so, they gradually build up to that.
#7 He buys you a drink. If the guy you are talking to at a bar buys you a drink, there is a good chance that he likes you, or at the very least, is interested in you. Guys don’t want to spend their hard-earned money on just anybody, that is, unless he’s just doing that to get you drunk enough to go home with him. But if he’s buying your drinks and still acting like a perfect gentleman afterwards, you can be sure he’s into you.
#8 He always opens the door for you. Opening the door for you is just another classic move that guys will pull for girls that they like *though some guys are chivalrous around all women*. Chivalry, after all, isn’t dead. It is a way to be a gentleman and just show the girl that she is special. Gentlemanly acts like this are a great way to show you that he likes you since there’s no way you’d reject a polite gesture.
#9 He makes jokes about liking you. Making jokes about liking you may be a way for him to express his feelings in a way that can be laughed off when things don’t go well. He may not be ready to tell you how he feels yet, so he jokes about it. After all, some jokes are half-meant.
#10 He constantly picks up your tab. The mere fact that a guy spends money on you would be enough to tell you that he is somewhat interested in you. Though there are some guys who are just extremely generous, having a guy pick up your tab repeatedly is a clear signs that he’s really into you… Unless, of course, it was you who insisted that he pick up your tab!
#11 He is always willing to listen to you talk about your problems. Despite what you may think, guys don’t always enjoy listening to girls discuss their latest falling out with their friends or similar problems. But a guy who likes you will hang on to your every word, and he might even give a little bit of feedback. It takes a certain kind of patience to do that for a girl, and he may only do that for someone he genuinely likes.
Men can be complicated. Sometimes they really like girls, but are too afraid to show it. It may be because they are insecure, they don’t know if the girl will like them back, or perhaps they just aren’t ready to take that step. But for girls, trying to read a man’s emotions can sometimes be like trying to crack a riddle.
Although this can be frustrating for girls, checking for signs that he likes you is just a part of the game of dating. But even if he isn’t displaying all or many of these signs, he still may like you and is just very shy. After all, some guys are so guarded with their feelings that they won’t allow even one slip-up to reveal his feelings.
The best way to know if a guy likes you is to simply ask. But if you’re not the type to ask, you can count on these signs to check whether or not he’s interested in you.
