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Most women do have it in mind that as though they have a man, they are satisfied. No! Think again. There's more to your relationship than just him. You also matter. Also Read: What Happens When You Love a Guy Who Just Likes You Whether you believe in love at first sight or taking a closer look, whether you’re in a long term relationship or something that is days old, there has to be self respect involved. Yes, it’s true that being in a relationship calls for mutual respect and understanding, but at the core of it all, you must respect yourself. Also Read: 10 Ways to Make Your Relationship Strong I’ve heard horror tales of women letting their partners step all over them because they’re afraid of ending up alone. Hello, girlfriend! Wake up! There’s a whole world of men out there and if you think that the loser who’s pushing you around is your best option, then maybe you really deserve to be with him. It all boils down to taking a look at yourself and evaluating your self worth.
She may be an absolute saint, but even the most patient of girlfriends can be sent over the edge by a particularly inappropriate word or two.
We guys are definitely the inferior half of the species when it comes to navigating our ways around the stony seas of relationships. If we manage to sail the full course without ending up shipwrecked, then we can either congratulate ourselves on a sterling performance or, being the more likely of the two cases, thank whichever guardian angel has been protecting us from ourselves.
That’s because the male members of the human race have an uncanny knack of putting their size twelves firmly in their own mouths when it comes to keeping the opposite sex sweet. Why we do what we do
How many times have you blurted out something potentially relationship-threatening, and then immediately regretted it – wondering what it was that possessed you to say it in the first place? It basically comes down to a less developed ability to empathize in men.
Women can usually put themselves in someone else’s position and immediately identify the potential to upset and/or insult. That’s why, if a woman says something hurtful even if pretending not to be aware, you can bet your bottom dollar that she meant it.
Men are quite the opposite. Lacking an advanced understanding of what makes the people in their immediate environment tick, they blunder forward with unimaginable crassness… At the least, to the female mind. And there’s the problem. Being so aware of other people’s feelings themselves, women find it hard to believe that our oblivious bumbling weren’t intentional.
So, in order to help you guys avoid starting off World War 3 at home, read on for the most common mistakes we make, and how to avoid them.
#1 “Don’t be so emotional.” Great start, guys! If you had to put together a top ten list of male chauvinist one liners, that would be right up there. In your mind, you may just be advising her to calm down and take a more logical line in the conversation, but to her mind, you are saying a whole lot more.
To her, you are making the assumption that she is incapable of logical thought, that this pointed flaw extends to the whole of her gender, and that you are making a statement about your own ability to control your emotions without fail.
Hypocrisy, gender stereotyping, and traditional sociological bias are not known to be particularly effective tools in dissuading the female of the species from removing your most valuable assets. And we’re not talking your coffee machine or remote-controlled helicopter!
#2 “She’s hot!” You’re probably a little confused over this one. How could the focus of your affections object to being called hot? Well, she probably wouldn’t – not if you were the one committing to the compliment, of course. However, walking down the street hand-in-hand with her and handing this most caveman-like of compliments to a female passerby is going to seriously make her reconsider the whole relationship.
If you can’t work out what’s wrong with so graciously sharing the love in this manner, then just put yourself in her shoes for a moment. Would you be happy if she said the same thing about a male passerby? No? Isn’t empathy a wonderful thing?
#3 “You look terrible.” In the immortal words of Homer Simpson… D’OH! She could be sick, tired, emotionally strained, battered by high winds or fierce heat, and looking like something the cat just dragged in, but keep it to yourself. No matter how insistent that male urge to blurt out the unadulterated truth is, try to find a way to suppress it.
Pay her a compliment, make her feel better about herself. If she looks so rotten that it would feel like an outright lie to do this, then just keep your mouth shut and say nothing at all. If you don’t heed this advice, then don’t complain if you end up sleeping on the sofa without privileges for the next week.
#4 “You’re wrong.” Not only is this an unacceptable insult whatever the gender, even if you have irrefutable proof of the matter, you’re also digging a hole for yourself if you say this to a woman. Seriously, women can dig up conversations from 79 separate points in time, and simultaneously weave them into an argument-driven web of such complexity that you end up tied in knots.
At the end of it all, they will not only feel offended, but also justified in their response. And what an insufferable combination that is.
#5 “Is it your time of the month?” Wow! Who would say this? Oh yeah – half the male population of the planet earth. Putting a woman’s behavior entirely down to her menstrual cycle, using it as an excuse to write off anything she has to say or anything she does, is not the way forward. It would be the equivalent of her dismissing anything you have to say any time you’re sporting an erection.
#6 “Where are you going?” Not when said out of general interest, but in a hounding, possessive, and controlling way. Women have as much right to roam this earth and pursue their own interests as men do, and treating them as cattle will not earn you any brownie points.
#7 “When’s your birthday?” Really? Come on, guys. Nothing is more likely to annoy your significant other than forgetting an important date such as a birthday or anniversary. It makes her feel unwanted and unimportant, and it only serves to make you look like a dolt. If you really have forgotten, then find out through another source. That way, you’ll save your relationship and your testicles from being forcibly removed.
#8 “That looks dreadful on you.” Mouth and brain disengaged. If she’s wearing something that you really don’t like, then please hold back from being quite so blunt. Tell her it looks nice, but then suggest another dress, and say you think that would look even nicer, more appropriate perhaps.
Let her know what you think about her clothes, she’ll often want you to contribute your opinion. Just make sure your comments are considerate and sensitive to her feelings.
#9 “Oh, Samantha.” Nothing wrong with this at all if your girlfriend is called Samantha. However, if Samantha is an ex-girlfriend or secret object of desire, then you’re in big trouble. Especially if committed mid-act. Our advice, if you can’t trust your tongue to say the right thing, then bite on it!
#10 “Sorry, I wasn’t listening.” We guys are in the unhappy position of falling far short of the average woman’s ability to hold effective conversation. Women can talk, listen, and muse upon what’s been said for hours at a time. To a guy, this pretty much constitutes torture. We can manage about 10 minutes before we start to think of tonight’s game, or that new PlayStation game we want, or that foxy new member of staff who just started working in the office.
Much longer than ten minutes, and we just tune everything out or try to steer the conversation around to something that we want to talk about. However, beware, for women have an uncanny ability to detect a wavering attention span and will always find a way to test you to see if you were listening.
If you get caught, you’re in trouble. To a woman’s mind, not focusing 100% upon what she has to say is not a physiological flaw – it’s a sign that you lack any respect for her, and that she doesn’t matter to you. In this case, you can say goodbye to your conjugal rights for at least the immediate future.
Think long upon these words and phrases, and make sure the next time you end up having a conversation with your special someone that you avoid using them. We won’t promise smooth waters, but heeding this advice will certainly make your journey a great deal less turbulent!
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Have you ever asked yourself why there are some couples that still continue to thrive even when romance is absent? Here’s what’s keeping their relationship alive.
Romance is said to be the flame that keeps the passion alive in relationships. When that passion fizzles out, we assume that the relationship is at its end.
What most of us don’t realize is that there is still a big difference between romance and love. We were trained and conditioned to look for passion, but we fail to realize that it’s not the only thing that can keep a relationship afloat.
There are millions – even billions – of hopeless romantics out there, but looking at a couple without any sense of romance can make you wonder if the hopeless part is all that’s left. If you look closely, you might see that the romance does exist. It’s just not noticeable enough to be seen by the naked eye.
Does romance really die?
Romance dies because there’s nothing to feel romantic about anymore. When people grow apart, they realize that the things that gave them a reason to love and show love are no longer there. Romance dies because people stop being in love. You can’t elicit romance in any type of relationship if you’ve stopped harboring intimate feelings for a person.
This is why romance dies, but why is it that some people thrive in their impassioned relationships?
When we talk about relationships that are intact, even without romance, it does not mean that the relationship is devoid of all romance. Some people just look at romance differently. When one person sends you a hundred roses, someone else might consider bringing home some groceries just as romantic.
I know it seems inconceivable, but that’s because your affection cannot be measured by how extravagant your gift is or how far you walked in the rain with a boom box placed on the crown of your head. Your affection is measured by how sincere you are and how much you care about someone – basically immeasurable, if we want to talk semantics.
How do relationships survive without romance?
The relationships that work well without the lovey-dovey, week-anniversary-milestone, glucose-oozing acts of affection are those that don’t need it. Some people are just programmed to coast without needing to showcase their love for each other. How you show your love is not as important as actually feeling it. When two people are in sync, they can co-exist in an adult relationship even if they don’t physically show it.
This is where that unseen connection comes in. Being in love gives you the capacity to overlook the subtle nuances that romance has to offer. It’s enough for some people to just be in the moment and appreciate everything in the relationship without having to validate it with what outsiders consider to be romantic gestures.
Then what keeps those relationships intact, if not romance?
It might seem like a big mystery, but the things that keep relationships intact – aside from romance – are the simple acts and human emotions that run through each and every one of us.
#1 Love. The most important and simplest factor of all. Love is not complicated when two people understand that its existence doesn’t need to be justified or validated.
#2 Care. Caring comes in many forms. Whether it’s a helping hand in the kitchen or an immediate response to a crisis, your presence and input are more than enough to make up for a lack of romance. #3 Acceptance. When you know where you stand and are not looking for more, you can rest knowing that you and your partner are in a perfect place with your relationship.
#4 Contentment. Those who yearn for more in a relationship are well within their rights to ask for something that they feel is missing. Couples who are content with how they approach their relationships need only ask for more when the situation calls for it.
#5 Empathy. Being okay with a lack of romance means that you and your partner understand each other well enough to know that you’re okay with how things are going. When something feels uncomfortable, these couples are more likely to react accordingly.
#6 Sense of duty. It might seem like an imposition, but it’s the complete opposite for the person who’s willing to do their duty as a partner. It’s essentially a full-time job, but they knew what they were signing up for.
#7 Familiarity. Even if the romantic aspect of the relationship does not exist, you still can’t help but feel incomplete without your partner. Their presence in your life is what keeps you going. In turn, it’s what keeps your relationship going as well.
#8 Dependence. The good kind of dependence is when you acknowledge that being with your partner is good for you. It’s only bad when you rely on them on every aspect of your relationship.
#9 Pleasure. Just because a couple isn’t romantic, it does not mean that they don’t engage in the primal parts of being in a relationship. If the sex is really good, you can bet that flowers will never be an issue.
#10 Family. Having a family can overshadow the need for romance. Some people choose to focus on their love as a whole, rather than a gesture reserved for just two people.
#11 Appreciation. Rather than nitpick about what your partner didn’t do for your anniversary, you can find more joy in actually appreciating what they do for you each and every day that you’re together.
#12 Gratitude. Saying thank you to each other can actually make up for a lot of things that most relationships have. Acknowledging the good things that have come out of your relationship on a regular basis can make it last longer.
#13 Sincerity. Although some couples don’t adhere to the expectations of romance, their transparency and honesty is enough of a sign that they’re in a relationship for the long haul.
#14 Communication. The strongest relationships are those with people who know how to express themselves. They can even discuss the lack of romance in their relationship and why it works for them.
#15 Emotional stability. When you and your partner are in a good place as individuals and as a couple, your relationship will thrive no matter what context it is in. Romantic or not, being in love, content and happy is more than enough.
What if I need romance in my life?
It’s not a crime to want romance in your life. We’re just saying that there are some things that can make up for a lack of romance. It all depends on what you want out of a relationship. If romance is what makes you happy, then ask for it.
If your partner truly loves you, a few sweet messages and setting aside a day for anniversaries would not be too much to ask. When you are dating someone for a long time, you start to find out what makes each other tick. Your partner will realize that romance is a necessary factor. If they don’t want to provide that, you can either arrive at a compromise or let go of the relationship – if it makes you unhappy.
The point is that romance is not the be-all and end-all of loving relationships. It wouldn’t hurt to have some of it now and again, but it’s up to you whether or not you’re open to or want a relationship filled with romance.
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